Archive for August, 2013

A Philosophy For Life

Reflecting on a week of joys and challenges with my elderly clients and their families and professional networks I remembered this inspirational poem from the book “If Life is a Game, These are the Rules” by Cherie Carter-Scott

 The Rules for being Human

When you were born, you didn’t come with an owner’s manual; these guidelines make life work better.

1. You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it’s the only thing you are sure to keep for the rest of your life.

2. You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called “Life on Planet Earth”. Every person or incident is the Universal Teacher.

3. There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of experimentation. “Failures” are as much a part of the process as “success.”

4. A lesson is repeated until learned. It is presented to you in various forms until you learn it — then you can go on to the next lesson.

5. If you don’t learn easy lessons, they get harder. External problems are a precise reflection of your internal state. When you clear inner obstructions, your outside world changes. Pain is how the universe gets your attention.

6. You will know you’ve learned a lesson when your actions change. Wisdom is practice. A little of something is better than a lot of nothing.

7. “There” is no better than “here”. When your “there” becomes a “here” you will simply obtain another “there” that again looks better than “here.”

8. Others are only mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate something about another unless it reflects something you love or hate in yourself.

9. Your life is up to you. Life provides the canvas; you do the painting. Take charge of your life — or someone else will.

10. You always get what you want. Your subconscious rightfully determines what energies, experiences, and people you attract — therefore, the only fool proof way to know what you want is to see what you have. There are no victims, only students.

11. There is no right or wrong, but there are consequences. Moralising doesn’t help. Judgments only hold the patterns in place. Just do your best.

12. Your answers lie inside you. Children need guidance from others; as we mature, we trust our hearts, where the Laws of Spirit are written. You know more than you have heard or read or been told. All you need to do is to look, listen, and trust.

13. You will forget all this.

14. You can remember any time you wish.


A new Kind Of Care Home Has Arrived On The Block

This guest blogger from Extracare Charitable trust will share with us, information about an alternative to residential care for older people.

When looking into ways of caring on a 24 hour basis for your elderly relatives and friends it’s important to make sure you are informed about the best and most up to date options available. This is especially important because there has been a massive growth in technology and people are living longer, introducing tensions between age and technology. It is therefore important to consider the things you need to take on board when considering the menu of options available.

The new generation

When we hear those words we tend to consider the next generation of children coming into the world, how their future will be shaped, and how, in turn, they will shape the world. People scarcely consider that older people have to deal with generational shifts as well, but they have to deal with it all the same. The problem here is that the media loves to lump all older people together and categorise them as  ‘the elderly’ without considering their generational needs. Unlike previous generations, use of computers, email and internet services are now common across all age groups and contemporary physical activities such as Tai Chi and Zumba have also exploded in popularity resulting in needing residential retirement buildings that recognise and keep up with it all.shutterstock_16791445-1

What makes a good alternative to a care home?

You need to begin by considering the old and stale image that people associate with the words ‘retirement home’. The public perception, aided and abetted by the media, is typically of mini institutions offering poor quality care that offer a containment solution. Good alternatives focus more on building a community of people and support that is connected to their local community. Extracare Charitable trust is an example of one of these community-building retirement charities. They offer a space where older people can be supported, alongside modern activities such as tai chi and computer training, making sure that they’re appealing to today’s older people rather than stagnate as the blanket demographic of ‘the elderly’ would have us suggest.

We need to ensure our elderly community stays active and remains an important part in the lives of their family and friends in order to promote a happy and healthy retired community.

We are increasingly made aware that physical health is connected with mental health, especially in older age, and that keeping active can reduce and slow down the effects of ageing.

When trying to choose the best care environment for your elderly loved ones, it is important to shop around, as this can be a life changing decision for an older person. Any reputable care environment will be happy to have a chat and will understand what a big decision it can be.